Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time, unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved, the mother, was not true to her bond of love, then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partner’s love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mother’s love because he is not worthy, as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past, it merely reenacts it, for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship, thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful, in being dominant.

bell hooks

Notes

Created - 1 year ago

This post has - 397 notes

  1. l-ehx reblogged this from black-culture
  2. just-takeawalk reblogged this from black-culture
  3. moosespeedo reblogged this from paolitics
  4. ellenrose911 reblogged this from black-culture
  5. lovelivelibra reblogged this from ok2saab
  6. ok2saab reblogged this from tontonmichel
  7. tontonmichel reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  8. swaggadownpatx3 reblogged this from paolitics
  9. paolitics reblogged this from black-culture
  10. sologreatness reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  11. tlove90 reblogged this from tysweetz
  12. currymashramani reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  13. darkmatterxafricanempires reblogged this from truthislove-always
  14. timelymatters reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  15. burymewithmusic reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  16. megsrawr reblogged this from neon--blackk
  17. neon--blackk reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  18. truthislove-always reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
  19. hashwork reblogged this from mystanceisbearded
  20. tysweetz reblogged this from 1212apocalypse
  21. mystanceisbearded reblogged this from monta23
  22. waiting-is-forbidden reblogged this from 1212apocalypse
  23. 1212apocalypse reblogged this from heisart
  24. shugacoatedcyanide reblogged this from dawtaofoshunsistahofassata
  25. dawtaofoshunsistahofassata reblogged this from iamthesocietyofkings
 
 

Black Culture

black history...black literature..black art..black culture...black fashion...black love

 

Close submit section
 
Close ask section
 
Close ask section

Uh Oh - The requested page is not there!

Sorry we could not find it, try visiting the home page.